Couple Therapy

Does any of this sound familiar...

  • ... my partner and I have been having essentially the same conversation again and again, and nothing has changes...
  • ... I've become increasingly angry at/uninterested in/distant from my partner...
  • ... we've just lost our spark...

While the conversations are infinite in number, I've found that the core of most issues that result in either therapy or splitting up boil down to the fact that you and your partner are having the wrong conversation.  On the surface, you may be arguing about who left the crumbs in front of the toaster, however the actual conversation that is trying to happen might be, "... is there room for me in this relationship?" "... do I matter?"  "... am I allowed to be me?"  "... can I speak my truth?" and so on. 

If the conversation is not at the right level, the deeper questions will never be resolved, resentment will build, communication will be stuck in patterns that don't result in satisfaction, warmth, intimacy, and growth.

Couples come in not knowing how to have the deeper conversations with one another.  I help get to the conversation and connection that needs to happen.  I use attachment practices, overt expression of unconscious processes, awareness, transparency, curiosity, all within a safe environment to help recapture the possibility within each relationship.  In order to re-establish a depth of loving connection, couples need the space and the assistance to uncover their vulnerability and willingness to learn something new—both about themselves and one another.

 sometimes the rock feels solid under your feet... sometimes your just hanging on at the end of your rope... ultimately, you trust your skill, your belayer, and the process between the two

sometimes the rock feels solid under your feet... sometimes your just hanging on at the end of your rope... ultimately, you trust your skill, your belayer, and the process between the two